How to stay cool with a nervous boss?
12 December 2008
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Your boss is impatient, stressed, impulsive? Is their restlessness affecting your mood and work? Learn to work with this personality and make them an ally!
Addressing them without causing trouble
A boss may be nervous because they take their job and company too seriously. Or maybe because they don't know how to manage human relationships. Whatever the reason, they always manage to communicate their stress to their employees and unleash their criticism. A tip when they're in crisis: stay away because they can also change their mood quickly. Wait for their stress to subside and don't get involved! If you are called into their office, be impervious to their shouting or agitation as if it doesn't concern you. If necessary, gently say: 'Don't get so worked up!', but remain calm, polite and positive when they speak to you while gesticulating. You will lower their tension and quickly defuse their stress. Do you have a request to make? 'Always check their stress level before going to see them to negotiate something,' advises François Lelord, psychiatrist and business consultant.
A boss to handle with care
Among these nervous bosses is one with a fearsome name: the 'Type A' boss. 'This is a man who is always in a hurry, in a competitive situation, who feels the need to be involved in everything they do,' explains the specialist. 'This person will tend to impose too short deadlines on you, to be irritable and to get angry easily if you don't satisfy them.' There is only one solution: show that you are reliable by delivering the work on time. 'Once you have reassured them,' continues the psychiatrist, 'you will be in a better position to ask them for deadlines and for them to accept your way of working without getting angry.' And even if they annoy you, learn to become their ally! They will no longer dare to get angry with you if you have appeased them. 'Show them that you share the same values as them on the quality of work and competition compared to competitors,' advises François Lelord. And, gradually, your nervous boss will become as gentle as a lamb...at least with you.
Posted on December 5, 2008
e-sante.fr
Addressing them without causing trouble
A boss may be nervous because they take their job and company too seriously. Or maybe because they don't know how to manage human relationships. Whatever the reason, they always manage to communicate their stress to their employees and unleash their criticism. A tip when they're in crisis: stay away because they can also change their mood quickly. Wait for their stress to subside and don't get involved! If you are called into their office, be impervious to their shouting or agitation as if it doesn't concern you. If necessary, gently say: 'Don't get so worked up!', but remain calm, polite and positive when they speak to you while gesticulating. You will lower their tension and quickly defuse their stress. Do you have a request to make? 'Always check their stress level before going to see them to negotiate something,' advises François Lelord, psychiatrist and business consultant.
A boss to handle with care
Among these nervous bosses is one with a fearsome name: the 'Type A' boss. 'This is a man who is always in a hurry, in a competitive situation, who feels the need to be involved in everything they do,' explains the specialist. 'This person will tend to impose too short deadlines on you, to be irritable and to get angry easily if you don't satisfy them.' There is only one solution: show that you are reliable by delivering the work on time. 'Once you have reassured them,' continues the psychiatrist, 'you will be in a better position to ask them for deadlines and for them to accept your way of working without getting angry.' And even if they annoy you, learn to become their ally! They will no longer dare to get angry with you if you have appeased them. 'Show them that you share the same values as them on the quality of work and competition compared to competitors,' advises François Lelord. And, gradually, your nervous boss will become as gentle as a lamb...at least with you.
Posted on December 5, 2008
e-sante.fr
