I don't get along with my boss anymore.
22 May 2014
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We don't choose our family, and we don't choose our boss either. So what do we do if we don't get along with them?
Many people say they are "fed up with their job" or that they "don't get along with their boss" without leaving their job. This dissatisfaction seems to be growing, as the balance between professional and personal life is more important than ever.
How much should you put up with when the relationship between you and your manager deteriorates?
1. Give Caesar what is Caesar's.
It is important to remember that a boss is a boss. Is that a tautology? Yes, but not only that. Remember that your boss doesn't have to be your friend, mentor, psychologist or father figure! If necessary, use a professional or personal coach but don't lose sight of the fact that your boss has other responsibilities and objectives than to guide you in your career or simply help you achieve your goals.
2. Try some small talk.
No, we're not suggesting you try to become best friends with your boss, but rather that you engage in light conversations in the hallway to relax and perhaps understand the person in front of you, who shares your professional goals. A chat by the coffee machine can sometimes drastically change everyone's perspective, for the good of all.
3. Avoid gossip.
It's pointless (even dangerous) to maintain this animosity and let everyone know about it. Gossip travels fast and badly. Walls have ears, and they distort things. The situation could quickly get out of hand and turn against you. As the famous Andalusian proverb says, "A closed mouth catches no flies."
4. Identify and redefine your priorities.
Ask yourself what matters most: enjoying your company, your job, and your colleagues, or liking your boss? Remembering why you wanted this job, why you chose this company and not another, can be a great way to get back to the essentials and what's important in your professional life; a good way to review your priorities, review your career plan and take stock. This will also help you determine how much you can (and should) tolerate this difficult relationship between you and your boss.
The ReKrute.com Team
Many people say they are "fed up with their job" or that they "don't get along with their boss" without leaving their job. This dissatisfaction seems to be growing, as the balance between professional and personal life is more important than ever.
How much should you put up with when the relationship between you and your manager deteriorates?
1. Give Caesar what is Caesar's.
It is important to remember that a boss is a boss. Is that a tautology? Yes, but not only that. Remember that your boss doesn't have to be your friend, mentor, psychologist or father figure! If necessary, use a professional or personal coach but don't lose sight of the fact that your boss has other responsibilities and objectives than to guide you in your career or simply help you achieve your goals.
2. Try some small talk.
No, we're not suggesting you try to become best friends with your boss, but rather that you engage in light conversations in the hallway to relax and perhaps understand the person in front of you, who shares your professional goals. A chat by the coffee machine can sometimes drastically change everyone's perspective, for the good of all.
3. Avoid gossip.
It's pointless (even dangerous) to maintain this animosity and let everyone know about it. Gossip travels fast and badly. Walls have ears, and they distort things. The situation could quickly get out of hand and turn against you. As the famous Andalusian proverb says, "A closed mouth catches no flies."
4. Identify and redefine your priorities.
Ask yourself what matters most: enjoying your company, your job, and your colleagues, or liking your boss? Remembering why you wanted this job, why you chose this company and not another, can be a great way to get back to the essentials and what's important in your professional life; a good way to review your priorities, review your career plan and take stock. This will also help you determine how much you can (and should) tolerate this difficult relationship between you and your boss.
The ReKrute.com Team
