3 exercises to overcome the famous "imposter syndrome"

In our habits, complimenting is not the rule, to say the least and for no one. No one thinks about it, on a daily basis, in the face of a successful and satisfactory action. Neither the boss, nor the colleague, nor the relatives, nor, especially, ourselves! We are, in fact, the first to forget to congratulate ourselves, in the sense of "drawing satisfaction" a deep, conscious and immediate satisfaction from our success.

On the other hand, when it comes to castrating ourselves, criticizing ourselves, or even insulting ourselves, we are often very present! This pattern is so frequent and widespread that it has been named, in psychology, the "imposter syndrome", which consists of not believing compliments but absolutely believing reproaches and criticisms.

Here, then, are three personal development exercises to overcome it.

A kind and benevolent look at yourself
Look for three things you appreciate about yourself, three qualities, three good points that you would give yourself. Feel free to count your last good joke or your ability to communicate with others. Small or large, the chosen character trait will do. You can also suggest an aptitude, your humor, for example, or your ability to get involved in your work. What matters is that you learn to feel sympathy, respect for yourself, a kind and benevolent gaze.

Strengthen the walls of your self-esteem
You will never be short of criticism, rest assured. There will always be someone who will enjoy hurting you because your vision is not theirs. And you will have to face doubt and negative thoughts.

How to manage?
Start by strengthening the walls of your self-esteem, the confidence you have in yourself. Then try to transform the negative energies received into constructive and active thoughts. Relocate and replace in context, for example, the words of encouragement you have heard throughout your professional and personal career and do not lose sight of the qualities that were mentioned to you during your last performance review.
In short, boost yourself by readapting to the reality of the moment to your qualities of always.

Learn to value yourself
Look back to quickly decipher your old self-criticism patterns, your ancient and archaic workings, which you will hasten to modify, rectify, and make evolve. In each situation, learn to value yourself, to transform your unpleasant or overly critical feelings into positive and empowering energies.

Of course, this is a permanent, constant "work" on oneself to be better at "work". But not only that, not only that...
So, get to work!