At the office, "to say or not to say?", that is the question.
9 January 2014
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Should you tell your boss that his methods are somewhat outdated, your colleagues that you are looking for a job elsewhere, in parallel? Should you practice transparency, speak up and get confirmation that you are not the only one who thinks this or that, or avoid talking, when you know that your words may well be reported, exaggerated, distorted? How dare you say, how to confess without compromising your reputation, tarnishing your image as an employee?
Think, first of all, before any action that could backfire on you, about the future, to classify the criticisms you would like to make.
Indeed, if the grievance is purely subjective, personal, if, for example, what you reproach your superior for relates to his way of speaking to his employees, to the vanity or the insolence of the tone he uses, keep it to yourself. Anything that falls into the sphere of direct emotion, which is not purely objective and professional, has no place in the corridors of the Company.
If, on the other hand, the criticisms you would like to express are related to the methods used by your N+1 or colleague, if they concern the organization of work and/or anything that may have negative consequences on the work of employees, then, yes. You can say. You must even say! However, don't lose sight of the fact that the best way to get a message across is to make proposals and suggestions without attacking your interlocutor. Be diplomatic and neutral. Don't get emotional, but rather propose solutions, positive changes to make.
Obviously, it is human to want to confide in one's colleagues, to confess what one has observed, to let out one's little personal remarks or even those little jokes that one silently dwells on in one's head. To be avoided. Definitely to be avoided. Colleagues may be delighted with your confidences and you very proud, but it remains risky. They may be jealous, envious of your career, hoping for a raise, and you could quickly find yourself in a very unpleasant situation.
Don't imagine for a second that your words could reach your boss's ears who, overjoyed, would suddenly change his ways or offer you with a smile the raise or the position you secretly covet. Don't imagine either that refraining from talking to your favourite colleague, or even your friend, would be some kind of abandonment. A professional betrayal. Far from it! To remain silent is, here, not to give - wrongly, moreover! - the feeling that you are no longer really involved in your work.
So, you're looking for a new job? Keep quiet or talk to your loved ones, your family! Mum's the word! Why sell the bear's skin before you've killed it? Don't say anything until you've actually found a job elsewhere, and not just a lead that hasn't led to anything concrete yet. Know, moreover, that you don't recreate strong bonds and you don't rebuild the lost trust of your team when you decide not to leave the company after having mentioned the possibility...
The ReKrute.com Team
Think, first of all, before any action that could backfire on you, about the future, to classify the criticisms you would like to make.
Indeed, if the grievance is purely subjective, personal, if, for example, what you reproach your superior for relates to his way of speaking to his employees, to the vanity or the insolence of the tone he uses, keep it to yourself. Anything that falls into the sphere of direct emotion, which is not purely objective and professional, has no place in the corridors of the Company.
If, on the other hand, the criticisms you would like to express are related to the methods used by your N+1 or colleague, if they concern the organization of work and/or anything that may have negative consequences on the work of employees, then, yes. You can say. You must even say! However, don't lose sight of the fact that the best way to get a message across is to make proposals and suggestions without attacking your interlocutor. Be diplomatic and neutral. Don't get emotional, but rather propose solutions, positive changes to make.
Obviously, it is human to want to confide in one's colleagues, to confess what one has observed, to let out one's little personal remarks or even those little jokes that one silently dwells on in one's head. To be avoided. Definitely to be avoided. Colleagues may be delighted with your confidences and you very proud, but it remains risky. They may be jealous, envious of your career, hoping for a raise, and you could quickly find yourself in a very unpleasant situation.
Don't imagine for a second that your words could reach your boss's ears who, overjoyed, would suddenly change his ways or offer you with a smile the raise or the position you secretly covet. Don't imagine either that refraining from talking to your favourite colleague, or even your friend, would be some kind of abandonment. A professional betrayal. Far from it! To remain silent is, here, not to give - wrongly, moreover! - the feeling that you are no longer really involved in your work.
So, you're looking for a new job? Keep quiet or talk to your loved ones, your family! Mum's the word! Why sell the bear's skin before you've killed it? Don't say anything until you've actually found a job elsewhere, and not just a lead that hasn't led to anything concrete yet. Know, moreover, that you don't recreate strong bonds and you don't rebuild the lost trust of your team when you decide not to leave the company after having mentioned the possibility...
The ReKrute.com Team
