Should you invite your colleagues to your wedding?
25 March 2014
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You're getting married, that's fantastic! In all your joy, you feel like inviting all your colleagues, the entire company, from the coffee pod delivery person to the big boss. Well, no, no, no. Don't give in to the temptation because it doesn't seem to be the idea of the century.
Here are 4 good reasons to think twice before sending your invitations.
1. It could change your professional image.
Chances are that on the day, your loved ones will have decided to concoct various "emotional sequences" for you and that you will see your childhood photos in blankets scrolling by, that you will hear your old favorite songs, that your personal memories will be passed around the tables. Consider that you might not enjoy experiencing these private emotions in a large public audience and that your colleague from office 19 might not look at you the same way after that video of you dressed up as Britney Spears. Other employees might also smile a little too much after these slides of you with super platinum blonde hair.
Is it really useful to shake and upset the seriousness and credibility of your character by stirring up these very personal sweet memories?
2. It could encourage gossip.
By inviting your colleagues, you open the door to the judgments of the "corridor critics," those who gossip all year long about everything and nothing. What's the point of handing the stick to those who will be happy to giggle, hand over their mouths, at your wedding dress or your husband's mustache or even the thick cream of your cake, soon, through their words, brought back down?
3. It could lead to indiscreet questions.
Back at your office, your colleagues, curious at best, inquisitive at worst, will pester you with embarrassing questions. You will thus be entitled to the famous: "So, that wedding night?", "What's it like being a newlywed?", "When is the baby planned?" It's up to you to see if you feel like participating in their taste for the indiscreet.
4. It could block your weekend evenings.
You invited your colleague from office 21. She will invite you to hers. And the others too. You won't be able to avoid it and you won't be able to refuse either. Politeness obliges. Yes, grateful for having had access to your private life, many are those who will want to show you their gratitude and affection by inviting you in turn. That's the end of your quiet family weekend evenings. You will have to run after the appropriate gift and spend several hours smiling on a chair. And not even the one in your open space!
The ReKrute.com Team
Here are 4 good reasons to think twice before sending your invitations.
1. It could change your professional image.
Chances are that on the day, your loved ones will have decided to concoct various "emotional sequences" for you and that you will see your childhood photos in blankets scrolling by, that you will hear your old favorite songs, that your personal memories will be passed around the tables. Consider that you might not enjoy experiencing these private emotions in a large public audience and that your colleague from office 19 might not look at you the same way after that video of you dressed up as Britney Spears. Other employees might also smile a little too much after these slides of you with super platinum blonde hair.
Is it really useful to shake and upset the seriousness and credibility of your character by stirring up these very personal sweet memories?
2. It could encourage gossip.
By inviting your colleagues, you open the door to the judgments of the "corridor critics," those who gossip all year long about everything and nothing. What's the point of handing the stick to those who will be happy to giggle, hand over their mouths, at your wedding dress or your husband's mustache or even the thick cream of your cake, soon, through their words, brought back down?
3. It could lead to indiscreet questions.
Back at your office, your colleagues, curious at best, inquisitive at worst, will pester you with embarrassing questions. You will thus be entitled to the famous: "So, that wedding night?", "What's it like being a newlywed?", "When is the baby planned?" It's up to you to see if you feel like participating in their taste for the indiscreet.
4. It could block your weekend evenings.
You invited your colleague from office 21. She will invite you to hers. And the others too. You won't be able to avoid it and you won't be able to refuse either. Politeness obliges. Yes, grateful for having had access to your private life, many are those who will want to show you their gratitude and affection by inviting you in turn. That's the end of your quiet family weekend evenings. You will have to run after the appropriate gift and spend several hours smiling on a chair. And not even the one in your open space!
The ReKrute.com Team
