Lack of affinity with colleagues: how to manage it?
15 November 2013
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It happens, in employment situations, that one has little affinity with one's colleagues. Before applying for job offers to change jobs, you need to think about what is happening: things can evolve. Some advice on Stepstone.
"Normally, in a job, you're not there to make friends," explains Carine Grzesiak, consultant and coach for the recruitment firm Aravati France, to Stepstone, "what is important is not the specific affinities but the general atmosphere and that, all members of a team are responsible for it." To create this atmosphere, it is necessary to be attentive to each other's needs. This requires observing each of your colleagues, seeing what their habits are, what bothers them, or what bothers you in their behavior. Beyond affinity, a good work atmosphere allows you to feel good. For example, you should avoid speaking loudly on the phone when you have an open-space job. "The goal is to create an atmosphere that is pleasant enough for everyone, so that no one comes reluctantly," continues Carine Grzesiak.
Don't necessarily rely on management
In an ideal world, managers and human resources are attentive to the experience of teams and intervene when they feel that the work atmosphere is bad or that one of the team members is isolated from their colleagues. There are even team cohesion seminars that help to smooth relations between members of the same area. "But HR teams and managers don't always detect problems," says Carine Grzesiak, "and individual complaints don't necessarily reveal that the problem is broader." Employees must therefore react themselves to feel good in their job.
Self-reflection
If a person has no affinity with all of their colleagues, they need to ask themselves why. Not getting along with one person is possible; having no affinity with several people should be questioned. By doing some introspection, one can sometimes discover that one is not very kind, that one tends to take things personally, that one has a condescending side even if one doesn't do it on purpose. If you are honest, you will inevitably find some elements. It is good to talk about it with another team member politely, explaining that things are not going well on a daily basis in your job and that you are trying to understand why. In general, this method allows you to understand what is happening and find solutions. "The important thing is respect between colleagues," specifies Carine Grzesiak, "not having the same interests can also be very interesting." If the problem persists, it will certainly be necessary, however, to consider looking for another job.
Stepstone.fr
Posted on November 15, 2013.
"Normally, in a job, you're not there to make friends," explains Carine Grzesiak, consultant and coach for the recruitment firm Aravati France, to Stepstone, "what is important is not the specific affinities but the general atmosphere and that, all members of a team are responsible for it." To create this atmosphere, it is necessary to be attentive to each other's needs. This requires observing each of your colleagues, seeing what their habits are, what bothers them, or what bothers you in their behavior. Beyond affinity, a good work atmosphere allows you to feel good. For example, you should avoid speaking loudly on the phone when you have an open-space job. "The goal is to create an atmosphere that is pleasant enough for everyone, so that no one comes reluctantly," continues Carine Grzesiak.
Don't necessarily rely on management
In an ideal world, managers and human resources are attentive to the experience of teams and intervene when they feel that the work atmosphere is bad or that one of the team members is isolated from their colleagues. There are even team cohesion seminars that help to smooth relations between members of the same area. "But HR teams and managers don't always detect problems," says Carine Grzesiak, "and individual complaints don't necessarily reveal that the problem is broader." Employees must therefore react themselves to feel good in their job.
Self-reflection
If a person has no affinity with all of their colleagues, they need to ask themselves why. Not getting along with one person is possible; having no affinity with several people should be questioned. By doing some introspection, one can sometimes discover that one is not very kind, that one tends to take things personally, that one has a condescending side even if one doesn't do it on purpose. If you are honest, you will inevitably find some elements. It is good to talk about it with another team member politely, explaining that things are not going well on a daily basis in your job and that you are trying to understand why. In general, this method allows you to understand what is happening and find solutions. "The important thing is respect between colleagues," specifies Carine Grzesiak, "not having the same interests can also be very interesting." If the problem persists, it will certainly be necessary, however, to consider looking for another job.
Stepstone.fr
Posted on November 15, 2013.
