Decode Your Office Colleagues!
20 April 2009
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At work, relationships with others are often as important as your skills. But getting along with your colleagues isn't always easy. Tips for managing "toxic" personalities and avoiding conflicts and misunderstandings...
Today, in the office, it's no longer enough to have good skills, you also need to know how to manage your relationships. A good professional is also recognized by their psychological strengths. To work as a team, many of us face conflict management, and some behaviors are more or less appropriate. The best way to avoid relationship disasters is to make changes in how we approach the company and our colleagues. Jacques Fradin, a doctor in behavioral medicine, explains his strategies, "In our relationships with others, new techniques can avoid myriads of daily misunderstandings."
Who are you dealing with?
To react appropriately, you must first know the person in front of you. Doctissimo offers three personalities you may encounter and the best strategies to approach them.
You are dealing with an inhibited person
This person is a good technician in their field, but is modest. True to their reputation as a trustworthy person, you can count on them, but they never do too much. In terms of relationships, they are kind, even helpful. But in case of stress, they get discouraged and depressed.
The right strategy: play on the emotional level. They only give their best if they feel loved. Reassure them without hesitation: everyone loves you, we couldn't do without your services. They will then be able to develop their abilities again.
You are dealing with a fighter
A hard worker, they know how to take initiative and are the first to give their opinion in meetings. Serious, enduring, they don't know what inner turmoil is. However, their relationship with others is tinged with aggression. A relentless climber, they always try to get ahead and can be perceived as a threat.
The right strategy: Don't try to establish a power struggle. Showing authority is inappropriate. On the contrary, develop your diplomatic skills and spontaneously entrust them with an ambitious project that uses their skills. You won't be disappointed.
You are dealing with a distracted person
Easily agitated, they are very active and like to entertain. This makes them a very popular person. On the other hand, they perceive all constraints as threats (schedules, deadlines) and you can't count on them in case of stress.
The right strategy: Avoid engaging in dialogue on anxiety-provoking topics (reminders of commitments, guilt trips). You risk frightening them and awakening their anxiety. Instead, help them de-stress and cultivate a calm atmosphere.
Posted on May 9, 2008
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Today, in the office, it's no longer enough to have good skills, you also need to know how to manage your relationships. A good professional is also recognized by their psychological strengths. To work as a team, many of us face conflict management, and some behaviors are more or less appropriate. The best way to avoid relationship disasters is to make changes in how we approach the company and our colleagues. Jacques Fradin, a doctor in behavioral medicine, explains his strategies, "In our relationships with others, new techniques can avoid myriads of daily misunderstandings."
Who are you dealing with?
To react appropriately, you must first know the person in front of you. Doctissimo offers three personalities you may encounter and the best strategies to approach them.
You are dealing with an inhibited person
This person is a good technician in their field, but is modest. True to their reputation as a trustworthy person, you can count on them, but they never do too much. In terms of relationships, they are kind, even helpful. But in case of stress, they get discouraged and depressed.
The right strategy: play on the emotional level. They only give their best if they feel loved. Reassure them without hesitation: everyone loves you, we couldn't do without your services. They will then be able to develop their abilities again.
You are dealing with a fighter
A hard worker, they know how to take initiative and are the first to give their opinion in meetings. Serious, enduring, they don't know what inner turmoil is. However, their relationship with others is tinged with aggression. A relentless climber, they always try to get ahead and can be perceived as a threat.
The right strategy: Don't try to establish a power struggle. Showing authority is inappropriate. On the contrary, develop your diplomatic skills and spontaneously entrust them with an ambitious project that uses their skills. You won't be disappointed.
You are dealing with a distracted person
Easily agitated, they are very active and like to entertain. This makes them a very popular person. On the other hand, they perceive all constraints as threats (schedules, deadlines) and you can't count on them in case of stress.
The right strategy: Avoid engaging in dialogue on anxiety-provoking topics (reminders of commitments, guilt trips). You risk frightening them and awakening their anxiety. Instead, help them de-stress and cultivate a calm atmosphere.
Posted on May 9, 2008
doctissimo.fr
