Recognizing the 4 Types of Toxic Colleagues
9 October 2012
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They can be unpleasant, self-important, haughty, insolent, vain, rude, vulgar, gossipy, aggressive, intolerant, sensitive, unmotivated, depressed, conservative, obtuse, proud, lazy, authoritarian, dishonest, unsuitable or unadaptable... They work with you, near you: they are your colleagues. And you'll just have to put up with it.
As it is clear that you will not be able to eliminate them, learn to recognize them and to parry their attacks....
Today, we agree to classify these negative personalities into 4 large groups.
The one who openly criticizes
Certainly, criticism helps us to surpass ourselves, to excel, to do better, always better. However, even if this character criticizes in front of you, forcing you to be more precise, rigorous and attentive in managing your projects, it remains that he is often hurtful, that he puts you in prey to doubts, perhaps even a certain lack of confidence in your abilities and aptitudes....
If you wish to retort, put yourself in his place and ask him to specify his criticism before answering it. Take your time and start with honesty and courtesy. Both defuse and disarm and can never be reproached. Avoid at all costs reacting immediately and viscerally because aggressiveness leading to aggressiveness, you risk going into conflict.
The one who implies
There is also this insidious character, who says without saying, who criticizes without criticizing. In short, the one who, like the serpent, hisses from below and spreads his venom in the form of repeated insinuations. Unable to assume his ideas, he only works in half-tones, throwing the bomb and hiding his hand. Never respond to his insinuations, even if you have perfectly understood them. Simply ignore what has been said or pretend to be slow and candid so that the person is led to clarify their statement. There is every chance that the coward, surrounded, will cease his insinuations and quickly return to factual ground.
The one who seeks conflict
Another type of toxic personality is very widespread: the Aggressive one. The latter only understands communication in terms of attacks, arm wrestling and conflicts. Each of his sentences is verbal violence that calls for your attention and your calm. Do not enter the game. Do not react, that's all he's waiting for. Remain silent as long as possible so as not to respond in the same way. Avoid confrontation. It is useless and will only satisfy your interlocutor. Moreover, the latter will only regain his ability to listen once his composure is lost.
The one who looks for the "small thing"
The perfectionist-nitpicker is an eternal dissatisfied person who will explain to you, whatever you do, that you have not done "enough". It's not good enough, clear enough, long enough, impactful enough, etc... The advantage of frequenting this kind of individual is that they get the best out of you. The disadvantage is that the best is the enemy of the good and that you cannot function 24 hours/24 and 7 days/7 at the maximum of your potential. Therefore, take into account what this person will express without making it the center of your reflection. In meetings, address the majority of the interlocutors and focus on the main points to be addressed. If you agree to develop a point of detail at his request, specify immediately that you will not be able to do it every time.
Article written by The ReKrute.com team
Posted online October 9, 2012.
As it is clear that you will not be able to eliminate them, learn to recognize them and to parry their attacks....
Today, we agree to classify these negative personalities into 4 large groups.
The one who openly criticizes
Certainly, criticism helps us to surpass ourselves, to excel, to do better, always better. However, even if this character criticizes in front of you, forcing you to be more precise, rigorous and attentive in managing your projects, it remains that he is often hurtful, that he puts you in prey to doubts, perhaps even a certain lack of confidence in your abilities and aptitudes....
If you wish to retort, put yourself in his place and ask him to specify his criticism before answering it. Take your time and start with honesty and courtesy. Both defuse and disarm and can never be reproached. Avoid at all costs reacting immediately and viscerally because aggressiveness leading to aggressiveness, you risk going into conflict.
The one who implies
There is also this insidious character, who says without saying, who criticizes without criticizing. In short, the one who, like the serpent, hisses from below and spreads his venom in the form of repeated insinuations. Unable to assume his ideas, he only works in half-tones, throwing the bomb and hiding his hand. Never respond to his insinuations, even if you have perfectly understood them. Simply ignore what has been said or pretend to be slow and candid so that the person is led to clarify their statement. There is every chance that the coward, surrounded, will cease his insinuations and quickly return to factual ground.
The one who seeks conflict
Another type of toxic personality is very widespread: the Aggressive one. The latter only understands communication in terms of attacks, arm wrestling and conflicts. Each of his sentences is verbal violence that calls for your attention and your calm. Do not enter the game. Do not react, that's all he's waiting for. Remain silent as long as possible so as not to respond in the same way. Avoid confrontation. It is useless and will only satisfy your interlocutor. Moreover, the latter will only regain his ability to listen once his composure is lost.
The one who looks for the "small thing"
The perfectionist-nitpicker is an eternal dissatisfied person who will explain to you, whatever you do, that you have not done "enough". It's not good enough, clear enough, long enough, impactful enough, etc... The advantage of frequenting this kind of individual is that they get the best out of you. The disadvantage is that the best is the enemy of the good and that you cannot function 24 hours/24 and 7 days/7 at the maximum of your potential. Therefore, take into account what this person will express without making it the center of your reflection. In meetings, address the majority of the interlocutors and focus on the main points to be addressed. If you agree to develop a point of detail at his request, specify immediately that you will not be able to do it every time.
Article written by The ReKrute.com team
Posted online October 9, 2012.
