Jealousy at Work
17 January 2010
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We all have our dark sides, our weaknesses and flaws, our envies, our meannesses, our appetites, our cravings, our pettiness and narrowness, our chatter and gossip, our excesses, our impulses...
In a company, it must be admitted, one of the most common deadly sins is envy, that wicked jealousy.
Uncontrollable feelings
When a colleague, at the same level as us initially, progresses more quickly or is given more interesting, motivating, and rewarding projects, we can hardly stop ourselves from thinking bitterly: "Why him and not me? What does he have more?"
And to answer, in our little angry head: "nothing, it's favoritism". These negative and uncontrollable emotions harm you and diminish you. Fight to overcome them, remain serene and fulfilled.
Know, moreover, that you will, yourself, trigger, provoke various jealousies, envy and underhanded blows, very small ones.
Refuse to be overwhelmed, do not give in to the spiral of anger, resentment, and aggression. Say what you have to say, to the people concerned, with tact and diplomacy, calmly and fairly. Be concerned, involved but detached. Do not enter into any system of thought and/or functioning that could, in any case, only harm you and end up making you flee your work environment.
Jealousy, a source of stimulation
But, surprisingly, consider that jealousy also has a positive aspect, a power: that of allowing you to surpass yourself in your work, that of carrying you, bringing out the best in your personality...
Your colleague has been promoted? So much the better for him! You will also succeed! You will work even harder, you will dare to be the best version of yourself, you will progress and multiply your potential, your strengths and your skills!
Jealousy, like most of our negative emotions, is double-edged. It can motivate or demotivate us, carry us or crush us, make us grow or diminish us,... It's up to us to see, it's up to us to choose!
The ReKrute.com Team
In a company, it must be admitted, one of the most common deadly sins is envy, that wicked jealousy.
Uncontrollable feelings
When a colleague, at the same level as us initially, progresses more quickly or is given more interesting, motivating, and rewarding projects, we can hardly stop ourselves from thinking bitterly: "Why him and not me? What does he have more?"
And to answer, in our little angry head: "nothing, it's favoritism". These negative and uncontrollable emotions harm you and diminish you. Fight to overcome them, remain serene and fulfilled.
Know, moreover, that you will, yourself, trigger, provoke various jealousies, envy and underhanded blows, very small ones.
Refuse to be overwhelmed, do not give in to the spiral of anger, resentment, and aggression. Say what you have to say, to the people concerned, with tact and diplomacy, calmly and fairly. Be concerned, involved but detached. Do not enter into any system of thought and/or functioning that could, in any case, only harm you and end up making you flee your work environment.
Jealousy, a source of stimulation
But, surprisingly, consider that jealousy also has a positive aspect, a power: that of allowing you to surpass yourself in your work, that of carrying you, bringing out the best in your personality...
Your colleague has been promoted? So much the better for him! You will also succeed! You will work even harder, you will dare to be the best version of yourself, you will progress and multiply your potential, your strengths and your skills!
Jealousy, like most of our negative emotions, is double-edged. It can motivate or demotivate us, carry us or crush us, make us grow or diminish us,... It's up to us to see, it's up to us to choose!
The ReKrute.com Team
