Is your boss attracted to you?
17 August 2011
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Studies show that about half of those surveyed have experienced attraction towards someone in their professional sphere. So it's not surprising that this could happen with your boss...
But this hierarchical link that exists between you can indeed bring an extra element of danger and excitement that you like and that doesn't happen with just any colleague. So, to know where you're going, the first question you need to ask yourself is 'Would I have had a crush on this person if they hadn't been my boss?'
Is it the person who makes you fall for them, or their position, their status? If the answer is 'their position', then it's a dangerous game and almost lost in advance that you're getting into: you will sooner or later be disappointed, or even exposed, and this will harm you in terms of reputation.
If it's the person themselves who appeals to you, and if it's reciprocal, then you can more calmly consider following your instincts. After all, what you share at the office already represents much more than what many couples have in common...
Discretion remains the golden rule to follow in these cases. No one needs to know what you feel, unless you enjoy dealing with colleagues' jealousy, the viper's tongue of some, rumors and gossip. In short, if you're a masochist.
And you'll also avoid having to explain one day that the promotion you're being offered is due to your professional merits and nothing else. However, be aware that even if your attraction is reciprocal and sincere, you may have to continue working with your 'sweetheart' after a possible disappointment...
The good news is that relationships in the professional sphere have rather high success rates.
Is your boss attracted to you?
Let's imagine that it's your boss who this time shows you interest. Obviously, the reason for their attraction cannot be your salary level or your influence within the company, and for good reason: you are their subordinate! There is therefore a strong chance that it is your personality that appeals to them. But one can always suspect them of simply wanting to play with their power...
Fortunately, office people are not strangers, and by working eight hours a day alongside them, there are many opportunities to understand their characters. You will therefore have guessed in advance if your boss, who seems to have a crush on you, is the manipulative or self-centered type...
In this case, it's better to dodge their glances and diplomatically show that you are not receptive to their messages. In most cases, this will be enough to curb their enthusiasm, and they will try to reassure themselves about their seduction skills with someone else.
But let's imagine (and hope) that your boss is not that kind of person. How to know if their attentions are genuine signs of personal interest or if you're imagining things (and they're just being nice)? A few simple details to observe will shed light on the matter:
Does your boss go out of their way to cross your path more often than usual? Do they try to make your work easier with small services rendered? Do they remember small details about you? It's not much, but probably sincere ways of showing you their interest. But don't feel obligated to respond, even if you are receptive to these attentions and you like this situation. Because even in this case, why rush things?
Take your time! If you're going to have a real relationship, it can wait a bit given the circumstances. Think about the situation, assess the stakes and consequences. It's proven that when they take the office as a backdrop, the love stories that work best always start with a lot of realism...
Posted on August 17, 2011.
Monster.fr
But this hierarchical link that exists between you can indeed bring an extra element of danger and excitement that you like and that doesn't happen with just any colleague. So, to know where you're going, the first question you need to ask yourself is 'Would I have had a crush on this person if they hadn't been my boss?'
Is it the person who makes you fall for them, or their position, their status? If the answer is 'their position', then it's a dangerous game and almost lost in advance that you're getting into: you will sooner or later be disappointed, or even exposed, and this will harm you in terms of reputation.
If it's the person themselves who appeals to you, and if it's reciprocal, then you can more calmly consider following your instincts. After all, what you share at the office already represents much more than what many couples have in common...
Discretion remains the golden rule to follow in these cases. No one needs to know what you feel, unless you enjoy dealing with colleagues' jealousy, the viper's tongue of some, rumors and gossip. In short, if you're a masochist.
And you'll also avoid having to explain one day that the promotion you're being offered is due to your professional merits and nothing else. However, be aware that even if your attraction is reciprocal and sincere, you may have to continue working with your 'sweetheart' after a possible disappointment...
The good news is that relationships in the professional sphere have rather high success rates.
Is your boss attracted to you?
Let's imagine that it's your boss who this time shows you interest. Obviously, the reason for their attraction cannot be your salary level or your influence within the company, and for good reason: you are their subordinate! There is therefore a strong chance that it is your personality that appeals to them. But one can always suspect them of simply wanting to play with their power...
Fortunately, office people are not strangers, and by working eight hours a day alongside them, there are many opportunities to understand their characters. You will therefore have guessed in advance if your boss, who seems to have a crush on you, is the manipulative or self-centered type...
In this case, it's better to dodge their glances and diplomatically show that you are not receptive to their messages. In most cases, this will be enough to curb their enthusiasm, and they will try to reassure themselves about their seduction skills with someone else.
But let's imagine (and hope) that your boss is not that kind of person. How to know if their attentions are genuine signs of personal interest or if you're imagining things (and they're just being nice)? A few simple details to observe will shed light on the matter:
Does your boss go out of their way to cross your path more often than usual? Do they try to make your work easier with small services rendered? Do they remember small details about you? It's not much, but probably sincere ways of showing you their interest. But don't feel obligated to respond, even if you are receptive to these attentions and you like this situation. Because even in this case, why rush things?
Take your time! If you're going to have a real relationship, it can wait a bit given the circumstances. Think about the situation, assess the stakes and consequences. It's proven that when they take the office as a backdrop, the love stories that work best always start with a lot of realism...
Posted on August 17, 2011.
Monster.fr
