3 Clues to Expose a Liar
20 May 2014
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Facing constant manipulation, many are tempted to use delaying tactics, which are actually failing strategies. An overview of false good ideas for relationships with manipulators.
Recently, the Harvard Business Review showed how talented business people are much better liars than their employees. Of course, forewarned is forearmed, but how can you expose a Pinocchio?
It's obviously easier when you already know the person or have already spoken to them knowing that they weren't lying to you. From there, you'll more easily see if that person is behaving abnormally. The way they stand, make contact, smile speaks volumes about the truthfulness of your interlocutor's statements.
Consider the following 3 elements to assess the honesty of what you are being told.
Nonverbal Clues
Someone who is lying generally knows the words they need to use, but their gestures can more easily betray them. When lying, the body moves little, stands in a certain way, still, at attention. The liar speaks quieter than usual, breathes more slowly and has their gaze fixed on the ground. The liar who believes themselves more cunning than others may stare you straight in the eyes constantly to be more credible. However, in a normal conversation, you only look your interlocutor in the eyes 60% of the time.
After telling a lie, most of the time, people show signs of relief. This is why police officers prefer to conduct an interrogation immediately after the facts. They thus hope to more easily obtain confessions.
Verbal Clues
When someone lies, they often do so in informal language and in a roundabout way.
But the opposite extreme is also true. Thus, American President Bill Clinton rather sinned by excessive formalism when he stated: "I did not have a sexual relationship with that woman, Miss Lewinsky".
Liars tend to give more detail than necessary in their story.
Lying: a perfectly chronological story
Most people remember and therefore tell things by placing the elements of their story in order of their emotional importance. A liar, on the other hand, to cover their tracks, always tells their story in perfect chronological order.
Jobat.be
Posted online May 20, 2014.
Recently, the Harvard Business Review showed how talented business people are much better liars than their employees. Of course, forewarned is forearmed, but how can you expose a Pinocchio?
It's obviously easier when you already know the person or have already spoken to them knowing that they weren't lying to you. From there, you'll more easily see if that person is behaving abnormally. The way they stand, make contact, smile speaks volumes about the truthfulness of your interlocutor's statements.
Consider the following 3 elements to assess the honesty of what you are being told.
Nonverbal Clues
Someone who is lying generally knows the words they need to use, but their gestures can more easily betray them. When lying, the body moves little, stands in a certain way, still, at attention. The liar speaks quieter than usual, breathes more slowly and has their gaze fixed on the ground. The liar who believes themselves more cunning than others may stare you straight in the eyes constantly to be more credible. However, in a normal conversation, you only look your interlocutor in the eyes 60% of the time.
After telling a lie, most of the time, people show signs of relief. This is why police officers prefer to conduct an interrogation immediately after the facts. They thus hope to more easily obtain confessions.
Verbal Clues
When someone lies, they often do so in informal language and in a roundabout way.
But the opposite extreme is also true. Thus, American President Bill Clinton rather sinned by excessive formalism when he stated: "I did not have a sexual relationship with that woman, Miss Lewinsky".
Liars tend to give more detail than necessary in their story.
Lying: a perfectly chronological story
Most people remember and therefore tell things by placing the elements of their story in order of their emotional importance. A liar, on the other hand, to cover their tracks, always tells their story in perfect chronological order.
Jobat.be
Posted online May 20, 2014.
