How to avoid being hated at work...
26 July 2012
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At the office, as in life, some people have a gift: that of annoying, exasperating, being quickly hated.
How to avoid being part of it and losing your professional credibility? How to avoid being categorized and locked into a negative image that you will only be able to very difficultly get rid of later...?
1. Avoid being the one who constantly asks for services.
Yes, it is very common, the beggar of the corridors who relentlessly seeks the helpful "pigeon" who will do his work in his place. Yes, there is the unbearable self-interested person who raves endlessly about his colleague's sublime ring before asking him to take care of file X as quickly as possible because it cannot wait and he is overwhelmed with ungrateful tasks. Yes, the liar of the open-space who claims to be exhausted, overwhelmed, so that we do his research for him, so that we refine his disastrous Powerpoint document, so that we call back this slightly too dry client on his behalf, is easily identifiable.
>> So think about planning your work, avoid as much as possible relying on the talents, skills and goodwill of others. As far as possible, only call on your colleagues when it is truly necessary.
2. Avoid being the one who spreads rumors.
Yes, the company's "gossip-monger", the purveyor of gossip, this awful character who cannot help but speak ill of his colleagues, make dubious remarks about everyone, report and distort the lives of others endlessly, out of pure malice or infamous calculation, is hated. Yes, this ignoble individual who, through childish and petty behavior, tries to sabotage the reputation of his partners, perceived as possible competitors, is ultimately recognized.
>> So think about questioning yourself if you cannot help but undermine the reputation of others to gain some self-confidence and establish your career.
3. Avoid being the one who brown-noses.
Yes, the boss's "bootlicker", the one who only laughs loudly at the jokes of his superiors, the one who only offers his help to those who are likely to help him climb the ladder of success, the one who would sell family and neighbors to be promoted, is identifiable. Yes, the one who shamelessly meddles in everything, who searches and explores every accessible avenue in order to gain any advancement, can only quickly lose everyone's esteem.
>> So think about maintaining some dignity if you absolutely want to manipulate others to succeed. Try as much as possible to remain discreet, elegant and honest and concentrate on your work rather than on devaluing the work of Others.
4. Avoid being the one who loves to hear themselves talk.
Yes, this character who inevitably cuts people off when they try to speak is insufferably rude. Yes, one often wants to put this bully in his place, who suggests that one is doing things very badly, who implies that he would naturally do better. Yes, we have all met this fox who tries to find out our opinions indirectly in order to appropriate one of our good ideas.
>> So think about letting the other person speak, giving him a physical and mental space of presence, of existence. Don't fight to constantly stay center stage. Know how to make yourself forgotten at times, to be modest and humble intermittently. Remain intellectually honest. Spare the "psychological mount" of your colleagues if you want to go far.
5. Avoid being the one who Facebooks and Tweets during working hours.
Yes, this assassin of productivity, who surfs the Web nonchalantly while others toil at work, who Facebooks and Tweets peacefully, a slight smirk on his lips while his colleagues slave away, is easily spotted from afar. Yes, this colleague who takes others for fools will undoubtedly end up receiving a well-aimed remark.
>> So, if you are addicted to virtual platforms, think about hiding in the toilet for a few minutes to check your page from a phone, but stay away from the bad idea of writing anything: everything is noted and likely to be used against you in case of dismissal.
Posted on July 26, 2012.
Article written by The ReKrute.com team
How to avoid being part of it and losing your professional credibility? How to avoid being categorized and locked into a negative image that you will only be able to very difficultly get rid of later...?
1. Avoid being the one who constantly asks for services.
Yes, it is very common, the beggar of the corridors who relentlessly seeks the helpful "pigeon" who will do his work in his place. Yes, there is the unbearable self-interested person who raves endlessly about his colleague's sublime ring before asking him to take care of file X as quickly as possible because it cannot wait and he is overwhelmed with ungrateful tasks. Yes, the liar of the open-space who claims to be exhausted, overwhelmed, so that we do his research for him, so that we refine his disastrous Powerpoint document, so that we call back this slightly too dry client on his behalf, is easily identifiable.
>> So think about planning your work, avoid as much as possible relying on the talents, skills and goodwill of others. As far as possible, only call on your colleagues when it is truly necessary.
2. Avoid being the one who spreads rumors.
Yes, the company's "gossip-monger", the purveyor of gossip, this awful character who cannot help but speak ill of his colleagues, make dubious remarks about everyone, report and distort the lives of others endlessly, out of pure malice or infamous calculation, is hated. Yes, this ignoble individual who, through childish and petty behavior, tries to sabotage the reputation of his partners, perceived as possible competitors, is ultimately recognized.
>> So think about questioning yourself if you cannot help but undermine the reputation of others to gain some self-confidence and establish your career.
3. Avoid being the one who brown-noses.
Yes, the boss's "bootlicker", the one who only laughs loudly at the jokes of his superiors, the one who only offers his help to those who are likely to help him climb the ladder of success, the one who would sell family and neighbors to be promoted, is identifiable. Yes, the one who shamelessly meddles in everything, who searches and explores every accessible avenue in order to gain any advancement, can only quickly lose everyone's esteem.
>> So think about maintaining some dignity if you absolutely want to manipulate others to succeed. Try as much as possible to remain discreet, elegant and honest and concentrate on your work rather than on devaluing the work of Others.
4. Avoid being the one who loves to hear themselves talk.
Yes, this character who inevitably cuts people off when they try to speak is insufferably rude. Yes, one often wants to put this bully in his place, who suggests that one is doing things very badly, who implies that he would naturally do better. Yes, we have all met this fox who tries to find out our opinions indirectly in order to appropriate one of our good ideas.
>> So think about letting the other person speak, giving him a physical and mental space of presence, of existence. Don't fight to constantly stay center stage. Know how to make yourself forgotten at times, to be modest and humble intermittently. Remain intellectually honest. Spare the "psychological mount" of your colleagues if you want to go far.
5. Avoid being the one who Facebooks and Tweets during working hours.
Yes, this assassin of productivity, who surfs the Web nonchalantly while others toil at work, who Facebooks and Tweets peacefully, a slight smirk on his lips while his colleagues slave away, is easily spotted from afar. Yes, this colleague who takes others for fools will undoubtedly end up receiving a well-aimed remark.
>> So, if you are addicted to virtual platforms, think about hiding in the toilet for a few minutes to check your page from a phone, but stay away from the bad idea of writing anything: everything is noted and likely to be used against you in case of dismissal.
Posted on July 26, 2012.
Article written by The ReKrute.com team
