Decode Your Work Colleagues!
29 June 2010
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At work, relationships with others are often as important as your skills. But getting along with your colleagues isn't always easy. Tips for managing "toxic" personalities and avoiding conflicts and misunderstandings...
Today, in the office, it's no longer enough to have good skills; you also need to know how to manage your relationships. A good professional is also recognized by their psychological strengths. To work as a team, many of us face conflict management, and some behaviors are more or less appropriate. The best way to avoid relationship disasters is to make changes in how we approach the company and our colleagues. Jacques Fradin, a doctor in behavioral medicine, explains his strategies, "In our relationships with others, new techniques allow us to avoid myriads of daily misunderstandings."
Who are you dealing with?
To react appropriately, you must first know the person in front of you. Doctissimo offers three personalities you may encounter and the best strategies to approach them.
You are dealing with an inhibited person
This person is a good technician in their field, but they are modest. True to their reputation as a trustworthy person, you can count on them, but they never do too much. In terms of relationships, they are kind, even helpful. But in stressful situations, they get discouraged and depressed.
The right strategy: play on the emotional level. They only give their best if they feel loved. Reassure them without hesitation: everyone loves you, we couldn't do without your services. They will then be able to develop their abilities again.
You are dealing with a fighter
A hard worker, they know how to take initiative and are the first to give their opinion in meetings. Serious, enduring, they don't know what it's like to be emotional. However, their relationship with others is tinged with aggression. A ruthless climber, they always try to get ahead and may be perceived as a threat.
The right strategy: Don't try to establish a power struggle. Showing authority is inappropriate in this case. Instead, develop your diplomatic skills and spontaneously entrust them with an ambitious project that uses their skills. You won't be disappointed.
You are dealing with a distracted person
Easily agitated, they talk a lot and like to entertain. This makes them a very popular person. On the other hand, they perceive all constraints as threats (schedules, deadlines), and you can no longer count on them in stressful situations.
The right strategy: Avoid engaging in dialogue on anxiety-provoking topics (reminding them of commitments, making them feel guilty). You risk scaring them and awakening their anxiety. Instead, help them de-stress and cultivate a calm atmosphere.
Published on January 9, 2009
Posted online on June 29, 2010
doctissimo
Today, in the office, it's no longer enough to have good skills; you also need to know how to manage your relationships. A good professional is also recognized by their psychological strengths. To work as a team, many of us face conflict management, and some behaviors are more or less appropriate. The best way to avoid relationship disasters is to make changes in how we approach the company and our colleagues. Jacques Fradin, a doctor in behavioral medicine, explains his strategies, "In our relationships with others, new techniques allow us to avoid myriads of daily misunderstandings."
Who are you dealing with?
To react appropriately, you must first know the person in front of you. Doctissimo offers three personalities you may encounter and the best strategies to approach them.
You are dealing with an inhibited person
This person is a good technician in their field, but they are modest. True to their reputation as a trustworthy person, you can count on them, but they never do too much. In terms of relationships, they are kind, even helpful. But in stressful situations, they get discouraged and depressed.
The right strategy: play on the emotional level. They only give their best if they feel loved. Reassure them without hesitation: everyone loves you, we couldn't do without your services. They will then be able to develop their abilities again.
You are dealing with a fighter
A hard worker, they know how to take initiative and are the first to give their opinion in meetings. Serious, enduring, they don't know what it's like to be emotional. However, their relationship with others is tinged with aggression. A ruthless climber, they always try to get ahead and may be perceived as a threat.
The right strategy: Don't try to establish a power struggle. Showing authority is inappropriate in this case. Instead, develop your diplomatic skills and spontaneously entrust them with an ambitious project that uses their skills. You won't be disappointed.
You are dealing with a distracted person
Easily agitated, they talk a lot and like to entertain. This makes them a very popular person. On the other hand, they perceive all constraints as threats (schedules, deadlines), and you can no longer count on them in stressful situations.
The right strategy: Avoid engaging in dialogue on anxiety-provoking topics (reminding them of commitments, making them feel guilty). You risk scaring them and awakening their anxiety. Instead, help them de-stress and cultivate a calm atmosphere.
Published on January 9, 2009
Posted online on June 29, 2010
doctissimo
