Managing Jealousy at Work
30 September 2014
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Let's face it, the workplace is a breeding ground for jealousy. Yes, a place of various jealousies: jealousy of power, jealousy of possessions, jealousy of others and their being, jealousy of rejection, mirror-effect jealousy, mimetic desire jealousy. In short, a den of jealousies, a ring of rivalries, from the noblest to the most base, primary and deplorable.
What to do?
If you are one of the jealous ones, here are some techniques:
1. Ask yourself why you feel envy, jealousy.
2. Think and rethink the methods used by the other person to obtain what they have and what you also desperately want (reputation, raise, promotion, charisma...).
3. Develop a precise action plan, trying to put aside the negative envy that gnaws at you, harms you and bores you.
4. Channel the destructive energy, this powerful, scattered and futile emotion, transforming it into a springboard for your career.
5. Dare to talk to your manager, presenting your motivation.
Conversely...?
If, on the contrary, you are the target of jealousy, if you have been subjected to it since day one, if it poisons your professional life, if you need to learn to distance yourself from it, to protect yourself from it, start by asking yourself:
1. How and why am I the subject of jealousy? Why this climate of hatred around me? This is not about positioning yourself as the official victim of the office, but about tracing back to the trigger, the catalyst, the revealer.
2. Before indulging in grievances bordering on paranoia, make sure it's not just a feeling.
3. If it is not the case, ask yourself what mistake you might have made that generates such hateful reactions.
4. Talk! Speak! Dare to initiate communication with your colleague(s) and engage in discussion based on concrete and precise facts.
Absolutely and consciously avoid, at all costs, locking yourself (and getting stuck) in the role of a poor victim of all the injustice and cruelty of this world.
Act! React with honesty, clarity and simplicity.
The ReKrute.com Team
What to do?
If you are one of the jealous ones, here are some techniques:
1. Ask yourself why you feel envy, jealousy.
2. Think and rethink the methods used by the other person to obtain what they have and what you also desperately want (reputation, raise, promotion, charisma...).
3. Develop a precise action plan, trying to put aside the negative envy that gnaws at you, harms you and bores you.
4. Channel the destructive energy, this powerful, scattered and futile emotion, transforming it into a springboard for your career.
5. Dare to talk to your manager, presenting your motivation.
Conversely...?
If, on the contrary, you are the target of jealousy, if you have been subjected to it since day one, if it poisons your professional life, if you need to learn to distance yourself from it, to protect yourself from it, start by asking yourself:
1. How and why am I the subject of jealousy? Why this climate of hatred around me? This is not about positioning yourself as the official victim of the office, but about tracing back to the trigger, the catalyst, the revealer.
2. Before indulging in grievances bordering on paranoia, make sure it's not just a feeling.
3. If it is not the case, ask yourself what mistake you might have made that generates such hateful reactions.
4. Talk! Speak! Dare to initiate communication with your colleague(s) and engage in discussion based on concrete and precise facts.
Absolutely and consciously avoid, at all costs, locking yourself (and getting stuck) in the role of a poor victim of all the injustice and cruelty of this world.
Act! React with honesty, clarity and simplicity.
The ReKrute.com Team
