Self-Esteem or How to Learn to Value Yourself!!
12 May 2016
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One of the primary factors in a lack of motivation is the lack of self-worth that many people suffer from. They are convinced they give their all and prove their value daily, but receive no recognition in return.
Complimenting yourself is motivating
In our daily lives, complimenting ourselves isn’t the rule, at least not for anyone. Nobody thinks about it daily, after accomplishing something successful and satisfactory. Neither the boss, nor colleagues, nor family and friends, nor, above all, ourselves! We are, in fact, the first to forget to congratulate ourselves, meaning "to derive deep, conscious, and immediate satisfaction" from our success. However, when it comes to putting ourselves down, criticizing ourselves, or even berating ourselves, we’re often very quick to do so! This pattern is so frequent and widespread that in psychology, it’s been named the "imposter syndrome," which consists of not believing compliments but absolutely believing reproaches and criticisms.
Yet, and we know this without integrating it, the only way to be valued by others is to start with yourself! Once satisfied with your actions, congratulations from your professional or personal entourage will follow.
Having self-confidence means improving yourself
When change is evident, when an individual is able to know and positively recognize themselves, without excessive upward or downward momentum, their perspective changes, becomes more confident. They perceive things they couldn't see before and become more creative, more dynamic, more efficient. Ultimately, more productive. And that is precisely what was sought at the beginning.
Personal development exercise (number one):
Identify three things you appreciate about yourself, three qualities, three good points you would give yourself credit for. Don’t hesitate to include your latest good joke or your ability to communicate with others. Small or large, the chosen character trait will do. You can also suggest a skill, your sense of humor for example, or your ability to get involved in your work." The important thing is that you learn to feel sympathy and respect for yourself, a kind and benevolent view.
Personal development exercise (number two):
You will never be short of criticism, rest assured. There will always be someone who will take pleasure in hurting you because your vision is not theirs. And you will have to face doubt and negative thoughts.
How to manage?
Start by strengthening the walls of your self-esteem, the confidence you have in yourself. Then, try to transform the negative energies received into constructive and active thoughts. Put back into context, for example, the words of encouragement you’ve heard throughout your professional and personal journey and don’t lose sight of the qualities that were mentioned to you during your last performance review.
In short, boost yourself by re-adapting to the current reality of your enduring qualities.
Personal development exercise (number three):
Look back to quickly decipher your old patterns of self-criticism, your outdated and archaic ways of functioning, which you will hasten to modify, correct, and make evolve. In every situation, learn to value yourself, to transform your unpleasant or overly critical feelings into positive and productive energies.
Admittedly, this is a permanent, constant "work" on yourself to be better at "work." But not only that, not only that…
So, get to work!
Philippe Montant
CEO ReKrute
Complimenting yourself is motivating
In our daily lives, complimenting ourselves isn’t the rule, at least not for anyone. Nobody thinks about it daily, after accomplishing something successful and satisfactory. Neither the boss, nor colleagues, nor family and friends, nor, above all, ourselves! We are, in fact, the first to forget to congratulate ourselves, meaning "to derive deep, conscious, and immediate satisfaction" from our success. However, when it comes to putting ourselves down, criticizing ourselves, or even berating ourselves, we’re often very quick to do so! This pattern is so frequent and widespread that in psychology, it’s been named the "imposter syndrome," which consists of not believing compliments but absolutely believing reproaches and criticisms.
Yet, and we know this without integrating it, the only way to be valued by others is to start with yourself! Once satisfied with your actions, congratulations from your professional or personal entourage will follow.
Having self-confidence means improving yourself
When change is evident, when an individual is able to know and positively recognize themselves, without excessive upward or downward momentum, their perspective changes, becomes more confident. They perceive things they couldn't see before and become more creative, more dynamic, more efficient. Ultimately, more productive. And that is precisely what was sought at the beginning.
Personal development exercise (number one):
Identify three things you appreciate about yourself, three qualities, three good points you would give yourself credit for. Don’t hesitate to include your latest good joke or your ability to communicate with others. Small or large, the chosen character trait will do. You can also suggest a skill, your sense of humor for example, or your ability to get involved in your work." The important thing is that you learn to feel sympathy and respect for yourself, a kind and benevolent view.
Personal development exercise (number two):
You will never be short of criticism, rest assured. There will always be someone who will take pleasure in hurting you because your vision is not theirs. And you will have to face doubt and negative thoughts.
How to manage?
Start by strengthening the walls of your self-esteem, the confidence you have in yourself. Then, try to transform the negative energies received into constructive and active thoughts. Put back into context, for example, the words of encouragement you’ve heard throughout your professional and personal journey and don’t lose sight of the qualities that were mentioned to you during your last performance review.
In short, boost yourself by re-adapting to the current reality of your enduring qualities.
Personal development exercise (number three):
Look back to quickly decipher your old patterns of self-criticism, your outdated and archaic ways of functioning, which you will hasten to modify, correct, and make evolve. In every situation, learn to value yourself, to transform your unpleasant or overly critical feelings into positive and productive energies.
Admittedly, this is a permanent, constant "work" on yourself to be better at "work." But not only that, not only that…
So, get to work!
Philippe Montant
CEO ReKrute
